A Rare Treasure

When I was in high school, my best friend’s dad used to tell the boys, “There are girls you date and there are girls you marry. Never get the two confused.” It’s a pretty funny statement that rings very true. The woman worthy of marriage is hard to find, she is a rare treasure. The girls you date, on the other hand, are a dime a dozen. There are plenty of those fish in the sea. I don’t think most of us think like this in our relationships. A woman of worth does not sleep with her boyfriends. A woman of worth dresses with modesty. A woman of worth, finds that worth in Jesus, not her dad, the culture, or her boyfriend. Do you see your worth through the eyes of God?

We, as women of faith desiring marriage, should conduct ourselves accordingly. Later we will see this woman who has worth beyond jewels is wise, compassionate, and steadfast. During this blessed time of singleness we should grow in virtue, diligence, and develop in our relationship with the Lord. To Christ, your worth is already beyond jewels, so throughout the next few weeks, let’s start viewing ourselves the same way. When we can see how Jesus sees we will live in a way that honors him and the people around us.

  1. Are you a diamond in the rough?
  2. Are you the kind of girl to date or marry?
  3. How can you grow in your relationship with Jesus and in virtue to prepare yourself for marriage?

If you enjoyed this post, please consider commenting, subscribing, sharing on social media, and making a contribution to my Patreon. Thank you, have a sparkly day!

Genesis 32

32

32:11 Humble yourself! God doesn’t have to answer your prayers. You don’t deserve them. All he has done for you and what little you have done for him. You are unworthy.
32:29 We must be soldiers for Him.
32:33 Kosher, don’t eat hip muscle.

I am so unworthy of the gifts you’ve given and I have no right to ask of more. I turn away from you everyday and give myself or others power over me that belongs to you alone. I thank you for the faithfulness you’ve shown and I’m sorry I haven’t trusted you. Make me your soldier.

I belong to you, Lord. Conform me to your will. Amen.

The Glue

During the consecration at Mass this morning, the Lord sparked a thought in my head: He is the glue in a marriage. I’ve seen pictures and posts online about godly marriages having Christ at the center. I knew this was a good thing, what should be the goal of all marriages. If Jesus is supposed to be the center of our lives, then of course he should be the center of the marriage. But today he spoke to my heart. He isn’t supposed to just be the center, he’s the glue.

It is through Christ that our relationships are successful. We are incapable of the true, deep, authentic love that is required in marriage while we are in our fallen state. But Jesus shares his love with us and through us. It is only in him that spouses are capable of the complete self-sacrifice that he displayed for us on the cross. The example is a vital component for teaching us to love, but the fullness of that love is found in Eucharist.

Jesus didn’t just die on the cross 2,000 years ago. He makes present for us that sacrifice at every Mass. I wonder how often couples who receive communion regularly get divorced. The Blessed Sacrament is the glue in our marriages. It is in it that we see love, sacrifice, joy, and peace. Frequent reception of Holy Communion should be at the heart of our relationships. We receive the graces necessary to live like Jesus when we receive him sacramentally.

I have noticed that some couples put other things between them. A lot put the kids in the middle. This is not necessarily a bad thing. The trouble is, eventually the kids grow up  and if the only thing Mom and Dad have connected on over the past 20 years is the children, then they’re going to have some trouble when the birds fly the nest. Some put TV, work, or the house in the center of their marriages but this probably leads to a lot of strife. Jesus is the only thing that should be between a husband and his wife. Only Jesus can pull them closer to one another rather than drive a wedge. Jesus will help couples move past their struggles while everything else will cover up, at best. Eucharist is like spiritual medicine, not just for our souls, but also for our relationships.

If you enjoyed this post, please consider commenting, subscribing, sharing on social media, and making a contribution to my Patreon. Thank you, have a sparkly day!

Genesis 31

31

31:9 God takes blessings from those who are not thankful and gives it to those who are.
31:42 God sees our troubles and will always help us.
31:50 God sees the things we do in secrecy and will punish accordingly.

God sees all and helps all that call to him. He knows my desires and my struggles and will protect and provide for me.

I trust you, Lord. 

The Sins of My Mother

I found this verse spoke to my heart very strongly recently and I’ve been rolling it over in my head for awhile. One of my greatest challenges is trust. Trusting God, trusting family, trusting friends–trusting everyone. I live in pretty constant anxiety because I can’t trust. Living one’s life with the fear of someone hurting you or taking advantage of you can have a devastating impact on quality of life. I find myself incapable of sharing my heart fully with anyone, causing me to feel alone, isolated, and misunderstood. And since I have a tough time trusting God, it makes it hard to have hope.

My mother is the one that taught me not to trust anyone. My dad a little bit, but mostly my mom. She watches far too much Law and Order and Lifetime Movie Network. I remember her coming into my room at night when I was young to tell me all the awful things people do to other people on he shows: mental abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse. She often told me never to trust a police officer, a fireman, a religious leader, a teacher, a doctor. No one can be trusted. A couple months ago my brother asked her if there was anyone in the world she trusts and she said no. My parents have been married for 30 years, my aunt and uncle are around, and my grandmother is still alive. But even with all that family and childhood friends, there is no one in the world she trusts.

One of the greatest challenges with this is my mom doesn’t even care. I’ve tried talking to her about it and she says, “I didn’t want you to be afraid, I want you to be aware,” “Well you know you have a problem, you fix it,” “I managed to get married and live a normal life, if you want it bad enough, you’ll figure it out.” But I have found it to be very difficult trying to sort out my loneliness alone. I really do want to have friends and relationships, but I’m afraid and insecure.

I often like to finish my blog posts with a  bow of completion, but that’s inauthentic. I haven’t figured out this problem yet. If you have any recommendations on how to move forward in my life, please let me know.

If you enjoyed this post, please consider commenting, subscribing, sharing on social media, and making a contribution to my Patreon. Thank you, have a sparkly day!

Genesis 30

30

30:2 Infertility is no one’s fault, it is God’s plan.
30:22 He answers prayers.
30:30 All abundance comes from the Lord.
30:32 Christ called sinners.

I will never be worthy of Christ and he doesn’t want me to be. If I were worthy then he would not have needed to die. He loves me through my sin, but wants better than sin for me. He is calling even in my sin.

You have given me much and all you give is good. I must align my will with yours.