My family is the second most important thing to me, following Jesus of course. So since family is so important to me, I want a guy who thinks family is also important. There is a lot to be learned during courtship about the families. First, does my family like him? Second, does his family like me? Third, do our families like each other? In order to find out the answers to thee questions, it is very important for the couple to enjoy family events together.
My family often has Sunday breakfast and Friday movie nights. Sometimes the extended family gets together for lunch. These are the perfect opportunities to have a young man over to see how the family receives him. These are casual events that can allow people to get to know one another and see if the personalities mesh well. If his family does things like this too, it would be a good time for his family to get to know me.
Although a wedding is about the couple, I believe that a marriage is about the family. In the Sacrament, two families become one. During a courtship the families should find out if they want to be one. The holidays are a great time to bring families together and learn about one another. I like to do the Feast of the Seven Fishes on Christmas Eve. I have a friend who likes to make lamb on Holy Thursday. Find out what each family’s traditions are and how you can combine them. Finding out how your families work together while still in a courtship can really help things in a marriage.
It is important for friends and family to support a young couple. When things get difficult and the relationship has taken a down turn, it is the people close to us that are in support of our relationships that will help us stay together. Finding a guy who recognize the importance of family in our relationship in the short term and long term is very important. His relationship with his parents and siblings speaks volumes about his character. His relationship with my parents and siblings will also speak volumes about his character. Our families should take a strong role in the courtship process because they will be stuck as one family until death do us part.
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